This was the final column of my 15 year run as a contributing opinion writer at the NYT. In which…
This is what really infuriates the trolls. My NYT essay for 1/10/22.
It’s time to reflect– and to remember we’re loved. My NYT column for 12/24/21.
How do we respond to a culture in which the guardrails of so-called civility are gone? My NYT column for…
How much do we care about the lives of the artists who make the art we love? My NYT column…
Bodily integrity matters– for all people. My NYT column for October 10, 2021.
A Florida city considers apologizing to the trans city manager it forced out a decade ago. My NYT column for…
Wait long enough, and surely they will come for every one of us. My NYT column from July 30, 2021.…
The call of loons, and of mortality. My NYT column for 7/7/21.
The cycles of progress for LGBTQ people. This 6/1/21 NYT column helped kick off Pride Month.
Sometimes what we are most devoted to are our biggest mistakes. My NYT column for 5/5/21.
Treating trans children isn’t an “experiment.” The experiment is making it impossible for these young people to become themselves.
My father died on Easter Sunday. His spirit is all around. NYT column for 4/4/21.
When you give blood, it’s more than blood you’re giving. My NYT column for 3/3/21
Recovering from the trauma of the Trump era will depend on how its story is told. My NYT column for…
Legislators are targeting young queer people trying to live their lives safely, and in peace. My NYT column for 1/31/21.
How piano lessons–and a middle school friendship–changed my life. My NYT column for 1/5/21
A visit to a clock repair store provides a lesson in living in 2020. My NYT column for 12/09/20.
What the music of Elton John meant to a closeted teenager in 1970. My NYT column for 11/25/70
How 1980 brought us to 2020. A memory of leaving home, and the month the country changed. My NYT column…
We have late-spring storms and high-stakes Senate races. But we also have lobster and Patty Griffin.
A generation of Americans prepares to flee. My NYT column for 9/30/20.
The Fight for Equality isn’t over, and can most definitely still be lost.
The one-termer club doesn’t have to be so bad, Mr. President.
Where the Bruce is loud, and the Rolling Rocks are cold.
They’re refreshing and ridiculously easy to make, and come with just enough bitterness to help you get through this miserable…
There are ways to accommodate people like me. But if our collective pandemic experience has taught us anything, it’s that…
Maybe we’ve been expecting too much of her all along. My NYT column for 7/8/20.
Were you more into punk than the Beatles? Were you less likely to protest the war than streak? You might…
A Little Bit of good news, in a dire month for LGBTQ people.
Flags are not just symbols of a country or a state. Their meaning lies in the consciousness of the person…
What stories of shipwreck and plane crashes have to teach us about Donald Trump’s America. My NYT column for 5/27/20.
A Journal of the Plague Year, Week 9. My NYT column for May 12, 2020
A Journal of the Plague Year, Week 7. My NYT column for 4/29/20.
What if Donald Trump had become the owner of a golden doodle? My NYT column for 4/25/20/
A Journal of the Plague Year, Week 5. My NYT column for 4/5/20.
A Journal of the Plague Year, Week 3. My NYT column for 3/31/20.
A Journal of the Plague Year, Week 1. My NYT column for 3/18/20
Forget the Happy Warrior. My NYT column for 3/4/20.
What my brief glimpse into the financial abyss taught me about the American health care system. My NYT column for…
Why should we listen to her anyway? Remember when she fell for Rick Santorum? My NYT column for 2/6/20.
Enough, I said. I will set out on this journey, although I do not know the way. My NYT column…
Tessa Majors, and the Worst Thing I Ever Heard. My NYT column for 1/08/20.
A Look Back at the Decade. I celebrate Jennifer Egan and Sarah Kate Ellis; I lament Duck Dynasty and people…
I joined Farhad Manjoo, Gail Collins, Bret Stephens, and Nick Kristof in responding to our favorite comments on our NYT…
Why do we love to get engaged around the holidays? My NYT column for 12/25/19
Even misfits can find a place where they belong. My NYT column for 12/13/19.
One day, I found myself coating the shingles on the roof with hot chili oil, in order to burn the…
This Halloween, the line between almost scared and truly terrified is thinner than ever. My NYT column for 10/30/19
Robert Hunter and Jerry Garcia : A Love Story.
First, let people buy some devices over the counter. My NYT column for October 1, 2019.
The city I once loved has changed a lot in 40 years. But so have I. My NYT column for…
Booker and Warren shone. Four people who were not there lost. My NYT column for 9/21/19.
Actually I love the new symbol of trans rights. But I love justice more. My NYT column for 9/18/19
What the Bread Loaf Writers’ Conference taught me about revision and invention. My NYT column for 8/4/19.
Riding grew harder as I grew older. Then I got an e-bike. My NYT column for 8/20/19.
A new proposal would make it easier to discriminate against LGBTQ parents who wish to adopt.
Two years after her infamous photo, the comedian is back, and fighting for her career.
Buzz Aldrin splashed down after Apollo 11. Then his real adventure began.
The names of stars. How to swim. And the meaning of profound homesickness.
You’re a single woman in a restaurant. Do you sit alone at the bar, or at a table?
From 1969 to today: from boy’s summer camp to womanhood.
It is refreshing–yet bitter.
I thought that like Wesley in The Princess Bride, I’d become immune to the news, like iocane powder.
The president won’t release his college transcript. But we can guess what it says.
What honeybees have to teach us about the fate of the earth — and our country.
Like Henry Darger, he created an epic fantasy. Why is Tolkien remembered, and Darger nearly forgotten?
How trans experience resembles the journey from one country to another.
How cataract surgery changed my life.
The American Bystander, published for just one issue in the 1980s, is back. It was worth the wait.
Fifty years ago, the band recorded the most entrancing version of its most hypnotic composition.
The new BBC production of “King Lear” is great fun — and an uncomfortable reflection of American politics these days
A DNA test for dogs taught me something about myself.
In Maine, the ice groans and the axes clunk, noises both terrifying and comforting
Conservatives are inventing a "syndrome" to undermine young people's transitions.
In a time of bittersweet memories, meals with family restore us. My NYT column for 12/12/18.
Why do they call it Boxing Day, anyway? My NYT column for 12/26/18
They say more about our culture than the sex of our children. My NYT column for Dec. 3, 2018.
The president spins falsehoods to make us afraid–of immigrants, of trans people, of each other. My NYT column for 11/28/18
Can Governor John Hickenlooper of Colorado run for president as a moderate? My NYT column for 11/14/18.
Donald Trump has harmed me more than any specter ever could. My NYT column for Halloween, 2018.
“If you’re there,” I prayed, “make it possible for me to live one life, not two.” A Halloween story of…
What do judges and umpires have in common? Not as much as some people think. My NYT column for 10/24/18.…
The administration seems to think trans people like me are as imaginary as hippogriffs. My NYT column for 10/21/18.
Imagine if doctored video of a politician appeared the night before an election. It’s everything Putin ever dreamed of. My…
She pretends to be a moderate, but she regularly votes with Trump. My NYT column for 10/9
We want to teach our children to be tough. But we also have to show them love. My NYT column…
Tusko did not develop an interest in jam bands. My NYT column for 9/24/18
“I wondered if all this grace could possibly be real.” My NYT column for 9/19/18.
It is never to late to change your life. My NYT column for 9/2/18.